You know you're from Colorado when...

"Denver Is Stuck In The 90s" (denver80222)
12/08/2014 at 14:04 • Filed to: None

you catch yourself saying stuff like this

DISCUSSION (41)

Cherry_man1 > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:10

Ya Same with STL and walking around my school.

SidewaysOnDirt still misses Bowie > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:10

If there was no reference to a train, I would assume Florida. The winter coats come out here as soon as it drops below 75.

1.21 JIGGA WATTS!!! > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:11

You don't have to be from Colorado to have that opinion. Currently living in Rapid City, SD.

It's crazy .

Logansteno: Bought a VW? > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:11

Basically St. Louis.

ly2v8-Brian > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:12

it was just barely above freezing here, saw a few people in shorts.

Sn210 > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:14

I washed my cars last weekend in 50 degree weather. It's 25 today, almost heavy coat time

For Sweden > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:17

Talking about being acclimated to cold weather

Colorado is two states away from Canada

Mercedes Streeter > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:18

It was 40F here on Saturday...I wore a dress... <3

spanfucker retire bitch > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:26

I don't even break out my pair of gloves until it's at least 20, and my jacket only comes out at 10 degrees or under.

Nothing a hoodie can't handle.

TDogg > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:28

50 is warm! Especially this late in the year.

-Indiana

Mel Silva > For Sweden
12/08/2014 at 14:37

Mentally or physically?

Mosqvich > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:37

I'm traveling and foolishly forgot to bring a heavy coat. Not so sunny in Missouri nor likely is it to improve in Maryland .

5-Speed Gangsta > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:37

My mother is from the Bahamas and her coat comes out for anything below 70.

cazzyodo > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:41

Last year I flew to Dallas and it was 7 degrees in Boston when I left and 35 degrees in Dallas when I landed. I started unzipping my jacket when I was getting to a cab and the driver said, "oh yeah, a cold front rolled in." My response was, "I'm actually unzipping this jacket. Compared to where I just came from this is downright balmy!"

Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast. > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:43

It's been 20 years since I left Alaska and I still stay way warmer than anyone else near me.

Osiris - I can haz Euro spec? > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 14:56

50 degree's? Hell, here in Alaska, I'm wearing shorts and a t-shirt with flip flops here in Alaska.

CalzoneGolem > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 15:00

If it was 50 out I'd be in shorts and a tank top.

HammerheadFistpunch > For Sweden
12/08/2014 at 15:18

meh, Utah is just as far but its had the 2nd coldest temperature ever recorded in the continental US. -69.3 F is pretty cold.

For Sweden > HammerheadFistpunch
12/08/2014 at 15:23

Utah is one state away, not two

Montana has a colder temp, and it is zero states away

Tohru > Mercedes Streeter
12/08/2014 at 15:25

I've gone outside before to run the trash out in boxers, shoes, and a thigh-length winter jacket.

I don't know how the hell ladies can go out and about in cold weather in a dress.

Then again, I've been snowblowing the driveway in a T-shirt and shorts before.

Mercedes Streeter > Tohru
12/08/2014 at 15:50

Admittedly, the dress was a mistake. I was freezing by the evening and regretting not sporting more boring attire. :O

Tohru > Mercedes Streeter
12/08/2014 at 16:07

I think you're supposed to do leggings with a dress.

In all honesty, when I'm outside for work and it gets cold I've been wearing fleece-lined leggings under the khakis. They were like $3/pair, when normal long underwear is like $15-20. It's a no-brainer.

Denver Is Stuck In The 90s > Osiris - I can haz Euro spec?
12/08/2014 at 16:21

And you can see China from your backyard right eh?

Denver Is Stuck In The 90s > Mosqvich
12/08/2014 at 16:22

Ya I saw on facebook you were having fun traveling. I hope you don't get stuck out there

Mercedes Streeter > Tohru
12/08/2014 at 16:25

I'm still new to this "womanhood" thing (assuming you've read my post lol...I should update it since I've made an even bigger decision...), though I did wear leggings. Still no help after the temps dropped into the 20s!

Normally I would sport jeans and a hoodie. Cute and warm! :)

Tohru > Mercedes Streeter
12/08/2014 at 16:28

Of course I read it, even posted some encouraging words. Guess ya forgot. :P

I suppose once it gets that cold, you just have to have more layers.

Mercedes Streeter > Tohru
12/08/2014 at 16:45

You have to forgive me, I have a bloody awful memory, and thank you!!! :D
Though, I should still update that to reflect recent changes...

I couldn't pass up on the dress, it was a killer Black Friday deal and Illinois isn't going to get any warmer. xD

Tohru > Mercedes Streeter
12/08/2014 at 17:09

No worries! Yeah, it's in your side bar. Maybe a change regarding the last picture? It seemed weird that you said that's "regular" you, cause that kinda implies that the current you isn't regular. They're just different sides of the same person... or in this case, perhaps an old version compared to the new?

You can't beat sales. And Illinois isn't going to get warmer... at least as long as my Anti-Flatlander Weather Satellites are still in orbit!

Kinja'd!!!

Mosqvich > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/08/2014 at 17:14

Me too. I just landed in Chicago

Mercedes Streeter > Tohru
12/08/2014 at 17:52

A change regarding the whole situation, actually! When I first came out to my friends (then eventually Oppo) about it, I was somewhat certain that transitioning and becoming my new self full time and permanently wasn't going to happen.

But as time has been passing and I've been living out this experience, my feelings on such has dramatically changed. I didn't expect to love this as much as I do. The reality far exceeded expectations. Like this is a deep seated love, like the love you feel for family, a significant other, or maybe even the car in your garage.

There are other observations about my feelings, actions, and personality (as my newest best friend says, my girl side is more "me" and I agree with her) made along the way that all do support my feelings to want to transition. Everyone I know is like "I've never ever seen you this happy before, and it's not just happy, you look like you're genuinely content".

For the past 7 years, I had altered my personality to conform to society and make my parents happy. But I'm not the person I projected myself to be. I'm actually the least masculine person you'd ever meet lol. It's hard to explain, but I feel that this is who I really am; that this, is right. And even though the exterior may change, I'm still the same lovable character on this inside...Just liberated from the shackles of the fear of being who I really am...

So to validate my feelings (and possibly start HRT) I've begun searching for Gender Therapists in my area.

...And I'll be happy as long as it doesn't dip far into the negatives again... :)

Tohru > Mercedes Streeter
12/08/2014 at 18:07

Awesome! Glad to hear that you're happy. I've heard it said time and again, you gotta be happy with who you are on the inside. Sounds like you've got that one on lock. Though I wouldn't say this is a "girl side". More like this is who you were all along, and the "guy side" was a mask in order to conform.

It helps a lot that you've got a good group of people on your side - I know quite a few people in all parts of the LGBTQA spectrum, and I've heard some bad experiences. Hopefully, you get to miss those completely.

I make no promises on the temperature. Some sacrifices* must be made for SCIENCE!

*i.e. most of downtown Chicago

Mercedes Streeter > Tohru
12/08/2014 at 18:36

Haha while I'm getting used to life as a woman, I'm still not used to pronouns and describing myself just yet. As time goes on I'll stop referring to myself in the third person and having "sides" but yes you are correct. I feel this is much more "me" than the guy side could ever be.

I do have a heck of a great group of people both online and in real life for support, though the road hasn't been perfectly smooth either.

One of my greatest supporters (remember this as you read on) keeps finding fault with me for things for absolutely no reason at all. Like she threatened our friendship over a few bad jokes and a huge misunderstanding.

Then she did it again this weekend, saying I overdressed to say hi to her coworkers (who are all good friends of mine too) which greatly disrespected her. They all loved the dress I was wearing (a casual dress, at that) so I don't see what the big deal was (I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one to wear a dress in an electronics store). But I apologized anyway. And both times, she went back on loving things she's said in the past. Like she said "you're a man, and you need to act like one" among other things that have broken my heart to read. I'm not sure how you go from being perfectly accepting and loving one second, then hateful the next.

I think she's just scared about seeing me change so fast. That she'll be losing her best friend. But this is not the way to convey that fear.

Then, the parents (ultra-traditional, conservative, and very hostile towards the LBGTQA community) will be the next hurdle.

And as long it's warm for the Chicago Auto Show!!! :D

Tohru > Mercedes Streeter
12/08/2014 at 18:55

People fear what they don't understand. Without knowing her I can't say for sure, but it is well within the realm of possibility that the accepting side of her may be a facade and the hostile side may be her true feelings (i.e. the hostility slips through cracks in the facade like water through a leaky door gasket seal). Needless to say, you don't need people like that in your life. You might have to prepare yourself to end that friendship before it drags you down.

I hadn't realized the folks didn't know. From what I've heard from other folks up here, either they'll accept you as their daughter because they are your parents and blood relationships come before all else, or they'll cling tightly to their beliefs out of fear. I'm not sure if you still live with them or not. If you do, plan an escape route (spare clothes and money in a bug-out bag, safe place to stay, transportation to get you there) in case things go sideways.

That might be possible. We'll see.

bhardoin > Mercedes Streeter
12/08/2014 at 19:12

Just gotta say, this post is golden, and congratulations. I remember when you first posted about transitioning to this identity, and I'm really glad to see a positive update on it.

Mercedes Streeter > Tohru
12/08/2014 at 21:50

I've known this woman and her fiancé for nearly 10 years now. She is a total sweetheart and the only reason I really came out. If it weren't for her finding a photo of me on my phone, it would still be a dirty secret today. Even our friend circle has a cast of all kinds of oddballs. Most of us are either Lesbian, Bisexual, and at one point, we did have a Transgirl (she left our circle to be with people who enjoy the same crimes she does...and I'm speaking actual crimes and things that will earn you a felony...). Both her and her fiancé are a couple of the most accepting I know.

So it confuses me to see her do this. Though in her defense, she was exactly like this before I even came out, but it had always been other people that have been the targets of her PMS fueled attacks. Mainly, her fiancé has always been the recipient of the rage. Apparently he knows she must not mean the words she says or something. She takes her anger out on people who don't deserve it. Word is that her boss (also a super awesome individual who loves me and does not see why she did this to me) has talked to her and hopefully the waters are calm again.

What I think needs to be done is a better understanding of my situation. Obviously she doesn't really know what's going on with me right now and I may be progressing too fast for her to handle. Also, since I'm not a natural born woman, maybe she can teach me some etiquette and such so I don't continue making silly mistakes.

As for my family. I know they will not accept this. I've danced around the subject a few times and even let my mum catch me washing my clothes. It won't be pretty. I'll be moving out in the next coming months and I figured then, I'll drop the bomb on my family.

Mercedes Streeter > bhardoin
12/08/2014 at 21:55

Thank you!!! <3

Honestly, I never expected to have to make an update. I mean I just expected to merge my two identiies together and continue living as two genders. But it's clear one is very dominant over the other. It scared me at first, but now I'm welcoming it with an open heart.

Tohru > Mercedes Streeter
12/09/2014 at 01:52

Well, I hope your friend can get her inner dilemmas sorted out so she can be the friend that you deserve.

Yeah, that might be a good plan of attack. Don't forget, we're always here for ya. If ya need a place to escape, let me know. The drive's a bit crazy (probably ~2hrs.) but the option's there if you need it. Folks on Oppo gotta watch out for one another, yanno?

orcim > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
12/09/2014 at 03:53

It got into the high 60'sF here and we declared a 3 blanket night. I'm (now) such a wimp.

My most favorite living in CO and going to someplace lower was a vacation in MN from CO. In a weird set of circumstances, I ended up picking up a small woman and running the length of a football field for a "touch down". At the end, I breathed heavily once, twice, a long sucking third time and then was breathing normal again and smiled. I think that breath thing freaked her out the most.

Mercedes Streeter > Tohru
12/09/2014 at 10:58

Things appear to be back to normal. Ugh, I guess I'll never truly understand periods and PMS and such. I'll just continue to do what I've been doing for years and be careful when it's that time of the month. I do think she could benefit from different means to deal with her stress...

Thanks for the offer!!! I'll keep it in mind if things go south. As I've been doing this for several years now, I figured the powder keg would've blown long ago...and I hope it doesn't go before I move out.

Tohru > Mercedes Streeter
12/09/2014 at 11:54

Out of all the "OEM girls" I've dated, none of them have used that time of the month as an excuse to be a bitch to everyone. Which means I kinda judge the ones that do. It may not be nice, but I'm not perfect.

Hey, I've already got one Oppo living with me that I helped when he was in a bad situation. Helping another Oppo is just the right thing to do.

Mercedes Streeter > Tohru
12/09/2014 at 12:11

And that's why Oppo remains one of the most amazing communities to me (and SCoA too, because it was because of their donations that I was able to get my car <3 and oh so much more). It's not just a bunch of strangers talking to each other, but like actual bonds and friends being made. :)

And I agree!! Though I can usually tell the difference between girls that use it as an excuse (my ex) and girls that likely have some underlying issue (depression, bi-polar, overwhelming stress, other psychological problems, etc) that's causing them to occasionally act out of line.

When I was in my "finding my psychological identity" part of my journey I spent a little over two years earning a degree in Psychology (I changed career paths before graduating), focusing almost entirely on Abnormal Psychology...Mostly as I was worried that there was something very wrong with me. When I came out of it, I was not only much more enlightened about myself, but I gained some knowledge about others as well.

I hate it, now I analyze everything. xD